As millions of us head home for the holidays, too many LGBT people struggle to be accepted by their families and childhood friends. Who we are causes tension with those we love.
That hurt and alienation inspired gay singer-songwriter Tom Goss to release a powerful new song and video yesterday. “Gay Christmas” is all about how hard it can be to blur your identity or swallow your beliefs simply to appease those who don’t fully embrace who you are.
The song is somber — weary vocals set against a toy piano and music-box chimes — but it ends with a redemptive and powerful decision: refusing to accept less by going home, choosing instead to spend Christmas in a better place.
“Too many of us have had to learn to accept less from our families when it comes to fully embracing us for who we are,” says Goss, who hails from Wisconsin but now lives in Los Angeles with his husband.
“It’s become even worse since the election, due to the sense of betrayal we felt when we learned how family and friends voted. Yet we are expected to be the ones to forgive, to ‘move on’ and pretend everything is okay, even as the current administration and GOP keep supporting anti-gay politicians and policies.”
The accompanying music video, directed by Nathaniël Siri, brings that positive ending to life. The camera follows five people who feel alienated from the Christmas spirit, but who redeem the day by gathering for a “Friendsmas” picnic.
“Gay Christmas” is available on iTunes, Spotify, and CD Baby. The music video is on Tom’s YouTube channel.