Finding Prince Charming’s Chad Tells All18 min read

Chad dished to OutBuzz about what really happened when he was stranded on the Salsa Date, what was going through his mind when he threw down his tie, what he really thinks about Robert, and his battle with depression.

Chad’s dramatic departure during the last tie ceremony shocked Finding Prince Charming viewers around the world. In an exclusive interview with OutBuzz, Chad dished on battling depression, what he really thinks of Robert and the dynamic with the other boys in the house. He shared his harrowing fight with meningitis just two months before the filming, dark parts of his past and the stigma surrounding depression prevalent in the LGBT community.

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OutBuzz
Did you think there was a lot of talking behind your back? Did you know things like that were going on?


Chad
I felt it,  you feel like your left or right ear is ringing when people are talking about you. It felt like there was talking behind my back, but until I actually saw the extra clips on the Logo website I didn’t know for sure.

Being in the house is very stressful. It wasn’t livable. It was a beautiful house—it was over 10,000 square feet. But there were hidden cameras everywhere. All the rooms had cameras everywhere.

OutBuzz
Let’s talk about the drama at the house. Did it stir past issues?

Chad
Look, there’s a lot of emotion coming from that and a lot of pressure being on camera all the time.  The cameras are constantly following you around 24/7. They’re there when you wake up. I was woken up by halogen lights and cameras in your face. So, that took some time getting to get used to. They film you going to bed and getting ready for bed. You’re mic’ed when you go to the bathroom. So there was zero privacy and it’s very interesting doing a reality show because I consider myself a private person.

OutBuzz
Isn’t that usually how reality TV shows operate? That’s usually their M.O.

Chad
It is of course, absolutely. So that’s something I did expect, but I didn’t really know how to handle it at the time.

I feel like people in New York are 10s looking for 10 other 10s and people in L.A. are 10s looking for an 11.

OutBuzz
What was your motivation to go on the show then—knowing that you were going to be filmed all the time?

Chad
Well, you’re from New York, you know how dating is. It’s tough! I feel like people in New York are 10s looking for 10 other 10s and people in L.A. are 10s looking for an 11. I wanted to try something different and new. I’ve been single for a little bit and I do want—I did want something real. I was told that [Robert] is amazing and he’s successful, so I expected to meet someone pretty amazing. Also, there was the possibility of developing new friendships in the house—which I actually did. I keep in touch with every single one of the guys. Except for Robert. We’ve become really good friends. I’m good friends with Dillon and we talk every day.

So there’s a silver lining—there’s a silver lining to everything.

OutBuzz
Let’s talk about Robert. Obviously you’re really emotional about it. How did you really feel about him?

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Chad
He has a magnetic personality. And I know it may not show on camera, but he’s very good at drawing people in and getting them interested. Maybe he mirrors other people’s personalities. I don’t know. But I felt something was off towards the end. I felt that there’s something off about him.  I really can’t explain it but it was a gut feeling. I felt like he was hiding something. I felt like something was wrong. And I guess in hindsight my gut feeling was right.

It started at the Salsa Date. He would  put his hand on my leg, and then brush my face and tell me how much he likes me. Then when the cameras panned somewhere else, when he knows they’re not on him, he’s like a different person. He sort of snaps out of it. Obviously I felt disrespected—that I was left alone the whole time on that date and I just felt something was off. I didn’t know what it was, but I felt something was off. I didn’t feel like he was being genuine. When I called him disingenuous, that’s how I was honestly feeling. He was disingenuous.

OutBuzz
You mentioned at that point that it stirred up all these trust issues because of your cheating ex.

Chad
Could be. But I have to be honest, the feelings that I got with Robert toward the end—I’m not new to the dating game—this isn’t my first time at the rodeo. There was something off about him. I felt like he was reading a script and he wasn’t being himself. So I just I feel like he wasn’t being honest and I thought that he wasn’t being genuine. I still believe I’m right. Also, when I said during a black tie affair that [Robert] kissed me, and then he kissed like another guys five minutes later—it would literally be three minutes, three to five minutes after he would make out with me. 

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OutBuzz
Let’s go into Robert kissing everyone in the house. It is a reality TV show competition and the whole point really is to get with Robert. And let’s not lie—it’s a house of gay men. That’s kind of expected. Don’t you think everyone’s trying to vie for the prize?

Chad
It’s not a trashy nightclub. Can’t you wait a day? We had a lot of time in that house. Robert had many opportunities with many people. I don’t care that he’s kissing other guys, just not within three minutes.  That’s how you spread stuff. It’s not a trashy nightclub. It was very strange. Even if I weren’t in Robert’s shoes I would take a break. Wait an hour.

OutBuzz
It sounds like you’re really into him. It almost sounds like jealousy.

I wouldn’t go near Robert with a ten-foot pole, to be honest with you.

Chad
Not at all. I wouldn’t go near Robert with a ten-foot pole, to be honest with you. At that time it wasn’t really jealousy, it was something that was a turnoff. If anyone was jealous it was Eric. He was really into Robert. He was in love with Robert from the beginning. Eric was having a tough time listening to other guys talk about it. There was a time when I did too. But towards the end I felt something was off about him and I just wanted to get out of there. It wasn’t jealousy, it was just sort of clarity.

OutBuzz
Let’s talk about that clarity. You were sitting there—it must have been 15, 20 minutes in the salsa club alone. What was going through your head? How did that feel?

I felt like Baby in Dirty Dancing, and nobody puts Baby in a corner.

Chad
It was disrespectful. Not a doubt. I felt like Baby in Dirty Dancing, and nobody puts Baby in a corner. I was left out, and it’s not just one camera on me—it was like five cameras on me. Every single angle, every POV—on me, sitting there. What am I supposed to do?

I must have drank probably two carafes of sangria by myself. And after all that time passed, I was like, fuck this I’m out of here. I just wanted to go. It just wasn’t enjoyable. It felt very contrived and awkward.

I don’t wish any ill on him. I think that Robert did this for fame and Instagram followers. If you look at his Instagram you’ll see that he hashtags himself “#Instastud” and “#Instahandsome.” It’s bad. I would never go for someone like that. It’s textbook narcissism. I don’t want to trash talk him anymore. He needs do some soul searching and see who he really is. I don’t know what it stems from, but I do wish him the best. Just from his social media alone I would never go for him.

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OutBuzz
Who is the ideal guy for you?

Chad
First of all humility is important. You have to be humble and Robert is the opposite of that. I don’t like people who like to flash how much money they have and how much money they make. I find it distasteful when people take pictures in first class with their boarding pass. I think it’s tacky. I like someone with a sense of humor. I don’t care what you do for a living.

I was dating someone who is a botanist—he also dances at Bar Mitzvahs. As long as you work with integrity. That’s important. Someone who obviously is going to be there, and vice versa, during the hardest times. You really know what’s important and who’s important in your life during the toughest times.

Two months before the show started shooting I had meningitis and I was in the hospital and it was it was a very serious case.

Two months before the show started shooting I had meningitis and I was in the hospital and it was it was a very serious case. I lost some friends. My mother reached out to a few of my friends and they just dropped off the face of the earth. They didn’t come to see me or reach out to me. They didn’t respond to my mother—they just dropped. I really can’t explain why, but you just realize who is really important in your life when you hit rock bottom.  When the shit hits the fan you know what’s important and who’s important. So I did lose some people, but I’ve gained some incredible friendships and I’ve rekindled some incredible friendships. And I became a lot closer to my family.

Emotionally for me it was a hard time as well because my best friend passed away from meningitis three years to the day that I got it, which is the irony of ironies. So, that was tough and obviously I came into doing the show with some baggage. I do have baggage. Obviously it’s not aired on the show that I went through that ordeal. But that’s something that has been lingering for a little bit. And I’ve been working on myself spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically since that moment. I feel like I’ve evolved.

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OutBuzz
Do you think that affected you in the house coming in with all that baggage?

Chad
Everyone came in with baggage. The show is bigger than who I am and who all of these suitors are put together. It is a lot bigger. We’ve addressed a lot of important issues that really do affect the whole LGBT community. I do feel that the one person has who has been holding back and who wasn’t genuine with whom he is and what issues he’s dealing with was Robert. I felt that he would ask people to open up and then complain when people weren’t opening up enough; yet he never opened up. And I believe he was hiding quite a bit.

It was a total gut feeling. I can’t explain it. Total gut feeling. I mean I think you saw it.  I’m the first one and the only one in the house who called him out. I just felt something was wrong and I was really emotional that day.

OutBuzz
You said you were emotional that day. You said after the exit interview that you had a breakdown at the tie ceremony. What was going through your head when you threw the tie down? Were you planning on doing that before? Was it completely spontaneous?

Chad
It was very spontaneous.
 I felt something was off. I didn’t know what to do—whether to stay whether to go. But I’ll tell you this like—that was the moment when I knew that Robert wasn’t being genuine. Not only with me, but with everybody. I think for him it was a game and I think he did this for Instagram followers and for fame. I don’t think he was there for the right reasons.

OutBuzz
What do you think the right reasons are?

Chad
For love. I really don’t think he’s there for love. And I don’t know how [Robert] can accommodate someone in his life considering… the news, everything else. I just know that he wasn’t there for love. 100%.

OutBuzz
Before the ceremony, you said, “If [Robert] were to take my tie I, would probably lose trust in the entire dating process and I would need a lot of therapy.”

How are you feeling now? Are you bouncing back? Have you sought help? We care about you!

I did attempt to take my own life when I started to realize about my sexuality.

Chad
I’m going to be very transparent with you. I am on antidepressants. I have had depression and anxiety. I think I came out with it on episode five during the masquerade ball. I have suffered from depression anxiety since a young age. And I think it all stems from not being accepted into society coming  being born into the stigma.  Only recently did children and young adults be more accepted within society for being LGBT. We have come such a long way from 15 years ago and it was a completely different time. I did attempt to take my own life when I started to realize about my sexuality, when I was younger.

OutBuzz
How old were you?

Chad
I was 12. And that’s something that I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this, and thank god I was unsuccessful in my attempt. But unfortunately depression and anxiety is something that’s very serious in the LGBT community and something that needs to be addressed and something that needs to be expanded because It does take lives. We do have outlets today such as the Trevor Project and other charities that really do help his cause. Obviously it’s not something that a lot of people are comfortable talking about. I’m not comfortable talking about it, but it’s part of who I am. It’s part of my past and I have grown a lot. But I understand the pain that a lot of youth goes through.

OutBuzz
We’re going to go back to the tie ceremony for a moment. You had a lot of balls—there’s no other way to say it. The whole ceremony happened, you threw your tie on the ground and you went inside. But! Then you had to leave the house and walk past the ceremony. What was going through your head?

Chad
That’s a good question, Remy. I don’t know what was going through my head because as soon as you’re eliminated or if you self-eliminate, you’re supposed to walk down the driveway—and then your bags are waiting. I was going against the grain. I was back in that house and left everybody there. It doesn’t look like a long time, but everyone was waiting outside for like 20 minutes. You’ve got to get out of the house and pack up and leave.

OutBuzz
Robert at the end of the tie ceremony said that he hopes you learn to not be so impatient and be more secure with yourself. Do you agree with that?

Chad
I do. I really do I think Robert has really tried to portray himself in a very positive light. I don’t know if it comes across that way to all of the viewers, but I have to say that absolutely we all need to be more patient with ourselves. All of us. Am I a patient person? No, I’m from New York City. Come on. You know how we feel about slow walkers!

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And as far as being more secure with myself I know I’ve come a long way. I really have come a long way with being more secure and more confident. My depression has stemmed from having a sort of self-hatred. There was a time in my life where I hated myself for a while. I hated who I was—I hated being born with this—being born and gay. I think it’s a relatable condition, especially within the LGBT community. It’s something that I went through and it’s something that I have been working on and continue to work on. But I do agree with what he said.

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OutBuzz
This is what Robby said in an interview with Vulture Magazine. He said, “Chad’s a nice boy, though he’s crazy. I mean, coo-coo. But he’s the most in love with Robert out everyone in the house. Chad’s smitten with Robert. And Robert’s smitten with him for whatever reason.”

How would you respond to that.

Chad
I think Robby had a few drinks before that interview. We talk every day. It’s all for shock value. That’s how I would respond to it. I think Robby was trying to be entertaining and that’s what he said. Robby doesn’t think I’m cuckoo crazy. He actually sent me a text message after to explain himself, and saying that he actually had a little bit of jealousy towards me because Robert laughed more at my jokes than his, and how he felt jealous of certain attributes that he thought I had and he didn’t, and we worked it out.

It’s silly. Robby and I actually never had an issue and nothing transpired between us. He’s actually been quite a big support system. I would say he after Paul left, he and Brandon were my biggest support systems in the house. Brandon has the most calming presence and Robby really does have a serious side to him. We’ve had some really deep conversations. And as far as that article I think he did it for shock value. That’s it.

OutBuzz
Two days ago you posted on Instagram  “And for the record, I left the house because I felt something was ‘off’ about Robert. Little did I know what the actual truth was until much later. Always trust your gut! #Idontdoplayers #Idontdoliars”

Chad
That’s what I said on the show and I think the show speaks for itself. I don’t do liars and I definitely don’t do players.

OutBuzz
So who is the Chad that you would like the “Finding Prince Charming” audience to know and remember? Who is the real Chad that you’d like to convey?

I didn’t change myself for the show. I was being myself the whole time. And if some crazy came out, then that’s fine.

Chad
That’s a good question. I think the real Chad I’d like to convey is the real Chad. However people want to portray me, I think the show showed me for who I am.  At the end of the day I gave it to them. There’s nothing that was edited or switched around that I didn’t give. So that was me—it was all raw, it was real, it was intense. There were a lot of emotions and a lot of friendships on the line. There was a lot going on in that short period of time. It was a bit of a whirlwind, but there were some really great times too. We had so much fun in the pool and I’ve even had great times with Dillon in the house. The gym date, my god—I haven’t even taken pre-workout since, by the way.  I can just have a grande iced coffee and call it a day. I was through the roof. I was literally climbing on the ceiling. That was so much fun. I loved it and I hadn’t done Crossfit before. It was my first time. It’s fun. I think I’m fun, I’m honest and I tell it like it is. I try to be very genuine and authentic. I didn’t change myself for the show. I was being myself the whole time. And if some crazy came out, then that’s fine.

OutBuzz
Who do you think Robert should end up with?

Chad
Honestly as far as who Robert ends up with… I think that it should be someone with very thick skin, someone with a lot of patience and someone arguably with a very thick wallet. It’s funny but it’s true.

OutBuzz
What’s next?

Chad
The experience as a whole has been one of the biggest learning experiences of my life.
I’ve made some incredible friends and this probably took my life in a new direction. Whatever direction your life ends up going in is for the best. I’m excited for what’s going to happen next. I don’t know what’s going to happen next, but I’m excited for it.